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Sandy 5/19/2009 5:09:27 PM
Hi, well Im stuck in the middle of a relationship that I really dont thing is heading me anywhere, I been with this person for a couple of years now and I can't handle it no more we have kids together and I think that is the main reason why I'm still with him but sometimes we just argue for any little thing wat should I do, please I could really use some good advice
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the birdie 5/20/2009 7:23:19 AM
Hi sandy. Is there anything else going on besides the arguing? How long have you 2 been together? When kids are involved it is hard to make a drastic change, and often times one feels opt to continue no matter what. This is often not the best thing, but tell us a little more info on your situation.
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Sandy 5/20/2009 10:11:46 AM
Hi, theres a lot of jealousy on his side he gets jealous for anything I can even go to the park with out him asking all this question about who was there and who was I talking too, and we have been together for 9 years now, is just hard
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the birdie 5/20/2009 10:17:28 AM
Wow, 9 years. I can understand your situation better now. Are you jealous at all? Or has it come to the point where you just don't care at all? Have you talked to him about it or has he not wanted to talk about it?
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Sandy 5/20/2009 2:25:03 PM
I get jealous, but not like he does we talked about that but it seems like he is just not listening
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the birdie 5/20/2009 7:37:40 PM
Is he home a lot? Do you have the burden of the kids most of the time?
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Lu 5/20/2009 11:08:04 PM
Sandy, I understand the situation you're in I was with my ex husband for a total of 8 years and we have 2 small kids.Towards the last year or so of our marriage we kept arguing about everything and I was getting jealous of things that were just in my imagination.In my case we tried counseling and talking things out but nothing worked and he asked for a divorce which was hard on both of us,in the end we were only hurting each other and our kids were suffering too from seeing us fighting all the time.Have you tried counseling? that sometimes can help My advice is if there is still Love between you two than anything can be fixed,ask yourself that question do you still love him? does he still love you? and don't confuse being together for so long and being used to each other as love.I'm extremely Happy with my new life and my kids are too.
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Latika 6/9/2009 2:46:51 AM
Sandy, I think you already know what you need to do. Everyone at some point in time spends too long in a relationship that they know is going nowhere. Inevitably, when it does finally end, you are going to look back and regret all the time and energy you wasted trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. Basically, if you and you’re man were really right for each other you wouldn’t have any doubts about it, not to mention, you two would not be fighting about nonsense. Why not take a chance on a new love. Girl you need to put yourself back on the market and find you a man that is right for you and will be there for you and your kids. Trust me; you are not getting any younger. The longer you wait to find someone better, the older and uglier you’re going get. Do you really want to be looking for Mr. Right when you’re an old hag with two kids? Save yourself the drama mama, leave that lame excuse for a man and find a real one before all the good ones are taken!!!

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